It's Monday. And it's cold. And the harshness of winter has started to erode at our humanity, our sanity, our sensibilities. We start to self-doubt. To dream of greener grasses (figuratively and literally). Overcome by our own sense dubiousness, we turn that negativity outward. Why? Because our ego is bored. Our ego needs something new to get us fired up about. It needs attention. And the best to way to feed that fire is to look at everyone else's life. And we judge. We judge how they look, how they act, decisions they've made, things they say, choices they've made...and we compare.
To my point, we take things personally. We all do. No matter how many times you read 'The Four Agreements' you will still take things personally. How to better remind ourselves that this is an ill-use of our brainwaves? Perhaps this nugget of Ruiz truth: we are all just secondary characters in each other's story (Ruiz). As others judge us, say things, do things that seem willfully meant to hurt us, remember - we are but a secondary character in their story, so the judgements imposed on us can not be personal. They can't be attacking us because they don't know us. We are but a perception, a character, a scene in their story. Therefore, what they say is not personal. It's about them, not us.
But again - that is an outward focus. This reminder is for us. For me. For you.
Do not judge, lest ye be judged.
What this prophetic prose really means... if you don't judge, you won't be judged. Why? Because you won't care if others are judging you. It's not personal. It never is.
One last expression before waving the white flag at this frigid Monday:
It's not all about you ;)
